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Jill Kolongowski's avatar

I've had this saved in my email forever because I knew (once I finally got a chance to read it) that it would be exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. I, too, feared so much being destroyed. And I was. But I found I actually didn't mind the destruction--as you quote, that other self was a fiction anyhow. Like you, even though I sometimes long for ease again, I think it will be a lifelong project of finding a new self. But isn't that always the project, anyway? xo

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Kaitlin Barker Davis's avatar

This essay was like church to my own writer-mother soul. Thank you for writing exactly what I needed to hear -- a reminder that I'm not failing at being a writer, just still continually figuring out (after 6 years!) what it looks like alongside/within motherhood. Also - have you read Linea Nigra by Jazmina Barrera? She does what you propose, using the fragmentary nature of parenthood as the aesthetic structure to write about pregnancy and early motherhood.

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